Emotional Commitment
The emotional experience that woman share with a man in a relationship is the door through which a relationship will either open up and move forward or, on the other hand, as the barrier that causes a relationship to stay shut and go nowhere. And “commitment” is a man and a woman agreeing to open the door together and walk through it.
But, the truth is, men don’t COMMIT for the same reasons most women do. They don’t think about, talk about, or want to walk through the door the same way most women do. That’s why the “process” by which most men commit is different.
For most women, there’s often a kind of tension and resistance built into moving forward in a
relationship with a man. It is not just talking about the spoken words of that make a commitment but about the “emotional commitment” a man has inside with a woman.
If a man is deeply committed to a woman and the relationship on an emotional level, then any
“issues” that run into are just going to be “bumps in the road” to him. And he’ll be confident,
comfortable, open, and secure with his woman in working them out.
But if a man ISN’T “emotionally committed” to his woman, then each and every little problem is going to cause him to get irritated, frustrated, and have him wanting to blame his woman and withdraw. Which is, in turn, going to make things much less certain for the woman.
Is Love conquers all?
If you are inlove there lots of love quotes that you can relate to your present relationship. Some of them started with not so quite peaceful or the conventional thing. Most of them were done secretely because their parents or friends might got angry. In short, there are people that are against in their relationship. But we believe to the true nature of our feelings so, we usually fight our love. At first, it’s like a fairy tale that the world is against your love but, ends up in happy ending. It is not usually happen in reality. There are some cases but most of the time breaking up is the only thing.Especially if the couple is at young age and still dependent to their parents, it’s hard for them to fight back. There are cases that succeeded. But few are ended up to return to their parent’s home and realize the mistakes they did. There’s no right and wrong in falling inlove. Sometimes, timing will make it wrong.
Voices
Filed under: General, Marraige, Poetry, Relationships
I am in dark place
a limited, watery space
But I grow bigger and bigger
I have supplies here as much as I needed.
I have a sensitive feel
I can feel sadness, happiness and get scared.
My hearing is also fantastic
eventhough I cannot fully understand it.
I always heard this lovely voice
it makes me relax and feel secure.
The voice always called me “My Baby”
I don’t know but I think it’s my name for sure.
When I’m active, I explore myself
I kick and transfer to different places.
I heard another voices saying,
“Calm baby, Mommy’s hurt. This is Daddy.”
Two voices which I got familiar with
I know their differences
But I am sure of one thing
I feel good when I always hears them.
My Baby is going to school
As a parent,you want to give the best for your children. You want them to feel what a child in the metro should get. You want something that deserves them to give or better. One important thing that a parent like us could give to them is education. Since that my baby is too young, I have much time to save his tuition fees. I know by that time tuition fees are already increases. So I have to work hard in my earnings. I prefer a good school for my child. I know that this school have an interview and entrance exam. So, I will train and teach my baby to read and count numbers at early age. At 6 months or 1 year old, I want him to go on a playroom to develop his social skills. I will also enrol him in certain program like music for him to discover his talent niche. I have lots of plans for my baby in the future. I am so excited when he go to school.
Healthy Relationship
Do you have a healthy relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend?
When you are in a relationship, you should keep your own identity. Remember that you both had your own lives before you met - people to see, places to go, things to do. The things that you enjoy make you who you are, don’t give these up just because you’re in love. Try to feel free to keep making new friends and developing your talents. It would be boring if you will spend every day together. You’ll end up with nothing to talk about and before you know it that initial spark will be gone.
It is also a sign of a healthy relationship when you have the ability to really truly be you with your partner. Girls could be comfortable enough to sit around in their pjs with no makeup on and boys could be secure enough to leave their macho alter ego at home. Being yourself also means being comfortable enough to discuss any issues that could be bugging you and talking through them together.
It is also good that you and your partner are friends. If you see your other half as someone you enjoy kissing but not talking to, then you’re probably in the relationship for all the wrong reasons. Try to take things really slowly when you first meet, this gives you chance to develop that friendship and get to know each other.
Another very important factor to have in a relationship is trust. Are you always checking up on your gal or man? Do you find yourself sneaking a peak at their email or keeping tabs on their Facebook wall? If so, it may be that the you feel insecure when you really don’t need to. If that’s the case, try talking to your other half about your feelings, and what you can both do to make it better. If you really do feel you have a reason to mistrust them though, then you might have to reconsider the whole thing. Unfortunately a relationship without trust usually ends in tears!
Honesty is another thing. If you have made a pact to stay faithful to each other, then stick to it. If your feelings change then speak up.
Be fair. It’s important for both people in a relationship to be equal - that means respecting the fact that you both have as much say in how you conduct things. Do compromise as much as possible. You don’t have to keep count but try to have a balance.
It might sound obvious but if you’re happy in a relationship then that usually makes it a healthy one. Remember – everyone deserves to be happy in a relationship!
All relationships take some hard work and really good communication. It’s when the hard work outweighs the fun that you have to ask yourself whether it is healthy or not.
Calm Down
Arguments don’t usually come about in the calmest of circumstances, but shouting and screaming at each other will not help. Not only will it give you a sore throat, but you’re also more likely to come out with things that you don’t mean if you’re not discussing things calmly.
A good way of introducing calm into an argument is to suggest you both sit down.
Violence is also unacceptable. If you think there’s a chance that you’re going to become violent during an argument, remove yourself from it straight away.
In the same way, if the other person starts becoming violent, get out of there straight away. Violence doesn’t solve anything; it just makes it twenty times worse.
Get Things Back On Track
Being in a relationship is never an easy course. Sometimes you’ll have an argument with your partner and after that, you need things to get back on track. It might be best to keep out of each other’s way for a while once the argument has died down. This will help you both to have a think, make sense of what has happened and decide what you want to do next. Making snap decisions or prolonging the argument won’t help; just get out of each other’s face for a while.
It can also be tempting to want to freeze each other out if you’ve been arguing by staying out of the other person’s way for as long as possible. It’s important that you sort things out, though, so don’t leave things too long. Remember that the longer you leave it, the harder it will be to start talking again.
Working at your own pace
Having your own time and manage it is a practice were everybody dream of.You can wake up late in the morning without rushing yourself going to the office. If your work is at your home that could be another good factor because it can lessen your transportation dues. You earn your own at your own time. There’s no 8 to 9 hours woking in 5 or 6 days. But still it depends because if you are a businessman, the working hours you have is flexible yet unpredicatable. The good side of working at your own is that you control your time and have lots of it. You can go to the mall or stays in the house whichever you like. But the downfall of it, the boredom is still there. Some of your friends are working in traditional working time so at your own pace of time, you have few people who can accompany you. Sometimes, it is sad to be alone and being impatient waiting for your colleagues day off for you to have a happy hour.
Having a Baby Shower or not
I am pregnant and plans to have a baby shower. It takes me three months in preparation. But a month before of my plan date, I got confuse if I have to pursue it or not. I already have my guest list, invitations lay out, program and food list. But just abrupt situation, things change. I am a practical person. I value the worth of each penny. I wonder that the cash we are going to spend for that party can be allocate in buying baby stuff instead. At least, I can choose whatever brand and style I want. But in my plan shower, I also have wish list but am not sure if my guest will follow. On the otherhand, it is also a get together of my old friends that I never seen for long. My hubby told me that I should pursue it since that I’m longing and preparing this fo how many months ago. I still have to see and weigh the pros and cons. But come to think of it, this party is not for me but for my baby. Why not stick to the plan might as well?
Being a wife
House is my workplace
Taking care of the children is my main job
Feeding, cleaning and playing with them
are the things that rewards my tiring day.
Aside from the kids in the house
I am also in-charge with housekeeping
Making sure that everything is all organize
Cleanliness and orderliness are always a must.
Washing clothes, cleaning and cooking
Doing these household chores is not that easy
Loaded of work cannot be estimate
Being like me is like a wondermom.
When my husband come home late at night
Preparing fine dinner and fix his clothes
Giving him a relax massage
to remove stress in his tiring job.
Funny it seems that I don’t have a break
Being a wife is not a job
It is a dedication for your family
Only their love will make it rewarded.
My place of comfort
Filed under: General, Poetry, Relationships, Vacations
It’s tiring day
Anger of bosses and stress from work
Makes you exhausted
and feel terrible the whole day.
After office hours
you thought, you will be at peace at last
But this is not the case
traffic in the street gives you headache.
Finally, you are at home
you want to feel relax and at peace
Your wife prepares you a delicious dinner
and gives you a relax massage that fall you asleep.
There’s no such thing as being at home
the feeling of being belong
you can do things at your own
with special love ones who always look after you.
Spending Christmas with my Hubby
Filed under: General, Marraige, Poetry, Relationships
Christmas is near
With angels and lights blinking in the streets
Sharing and giving should possess
Spreading love and joy we must assess.
This could be our first Christmas together
Only the two of us left home
Our parents and helpers are out
I must say things will be fine and ok.
I can prepare simple dish for us
or let’s buy something worth in the restaurant
Spending the Christmas eve by the two of us
will be happy and joyful like the sun.
We could exchange gifts and decorate our christmas tree
To forget the loneliness we felt inside
Let’s celebrate the night with fun
Because Christmas is meant to be joyful to everyone.
Behind Man’s Success
Filed under: General, Marraige, Relationships, Working
There’s a belief that “Behind man’s success is a woman”. How can this be true? I agree with this belief. It is usually happens in a couple where they have to support each other at all aspect. Building a strong foundation of trust and relationship really helps. When you have this, motivating your partner in doing his own thing is now easy. Uplift his spirit and serve’s as a coach can help in pushing him to the road of success. But first, knowing his goal or wants should be done first or you will end up pushing him doing things that against his will. Listening is the key. When he asked for your opinion, just give the pros and cons of each so that he could have an option. Be a great adviser but don’t disappoint if sometimes, he didn’t listen to you. He will learn on his own way but in the end, he will still consider the thoughts of yours. Praise your husband if he done good things or if he looks good. Man’s needs to be appreciated sometimes. It can increase their self esteem and confidence as well. If a man have a strong confidant at home, he could do better in his work.
Say Sorry and Mean It
In an ideal world, everyone would get on with each other all the time and never fall out. The harsh reality is that sometimes we argue with our mates or family, and relationships can become strained.
If you find yourself at odds with someone, talk about it calmly. If you were wrong admit it. Sorry doesn’t have to be the hardest word. You can make a difference to how other people see you by just saying sorry. If you were wrong and you’ve admitted it, well done but why not go one step further and apologize. ’Sorry’ is just a word but it can make all the difference. It helps if you mean it, too.