I spend years of my life in studying, working  and attending to client calls. Activities that exposes me to different stages of emotional condition brought by success, frustration, anxiety and problems. I don’t have regret facing those situation cause it made me a better man. Most of all, working for almost six days a week provides my family enjoyment in having a decent living condition and satisfaction to our basic needs.

I don’t mind working especially if it is for the benefits of my family. For it is my role as a father to my kids and as a husband to my wife. But sometimes, I told myself that I need a break too!

Once in a while we went out of town for a vacation. Sometimes I pamper myself by having a massage and a drink with friends. But what I enjoy most is to be in a place where I can temporary escape the reality.

Having a vacation seldom happens in my life. If this happens again, I wanted it to be a perfect one. I visualize my vacation in a beach island with my family. The place is quiet and peaceful. You can play and lay down in white sand and taking a dip in blue water. You can run and shout as long as you want. You can solemnly enjoy the sunset and witness the time wherein daylight slowly covered by darkness. Feel the importance of light when sun slowly appears to overcome the darkness. Most of all enjoy those wonderful moment with your love ones.

 I’m not getting any younger so I plan to enjoy life now more than before. I know that I had to work…but I need a break too!

It’s been a long time since we parted our ways

I pursue on what I believe is right and you have own life

Couple of time we accidentally met which I felt is like a test 

Yet we succeeded to remain friends and I believe it is the best.

I haven’t see you for a long time and I heard your doing fine

An indication your have move on and now happy in your life.

Preoccupied on your career, a move that I really think is bright

I never bother to ask about your love life because I don’t have the right. 

I really think that destiny want to test my emotion…

He brought me to a place using work as the reason.

When I met you again, I can’t understand my feeling

I know you felt it too and for me that is so confusing!

I tried to keep a distance and concentrate on my work.

I Tried to ignore the feeling of wanting to see you more.

I believe I just miss you because you are my friend.

And will try to keep it that way, today until end!

 I want to admit, the feeling I had then remains the same…

But the decision of not choosing you will remain.

I will convince myself that we are only destined to be friends…

I will leave the love behind and put everything to an end!

Working in a corporation or any business entity is the common goal of an individual. Student keeps on studying in order for them to have a college degree which will serve as a passport of acquiring a job. After graduation, you can see on their face the excitement in looking for a job and willingness to do anything just to have a position in a corporate world. Once hired, this individual will then try to make a mark on their company or attempt to be recognized immediately. This is common fact and I believe that this attitude is normal in the beginning.  However, as years pass by, the determination demonstrated in beginning will slowly diminish and the worst scenario is that might also lead to resignation.

If this case frequently happens in your company, then there might be wrong in the organization or your might had hired a wrong individual. Base on experience and observation, people who got hired and resigned after a couple years  had reached any of the following condition in a short period of time:

• First - they found out that the job they have now is not the kind of job they wanted.
• Second- they got bored because of the routine task they do
• Third - they believe that better opportunity is waiting outside that offers greener pasture.
• Fourth- they can don’t like the system being implemented by the management of the company.
• Fifth- totally not satisfied on the status of their career.

 But who suffers in end? On my point of view, both the employer and employee will suffer in the end. Employer will suffer because they will do again the hiring process and training of new candidates for employment, they might have lost a good employee, work performance of the group might be affected and will incur unwanted additional cost. Employee on the other hand will suffer since they are to look for new employment, build new working relationship and might have wasted time , effort and growth opportunity,

The learning point is that both employee and employer should take extra effort before entering in employment of Contract. Everything should be clear from the start as to work conditions, benefits, career plan and other.  Hence, both hiring and accepting task should be done RIGHT AT THE FIRST TIME!  

One of the most wonderful gifts that I ever received

Is the gift of True Friendship that destiny give

Two different people meet in an unplanned situation

Eventually becomes friends without any condition.

 True friendship offers a relationship that is sublime 

Without hesitation, one can always give  a hand…

 Whenever there’s a conflict, spirit of friendship will prevail

With respect on each other, their relationship will never fail.

Friendships are not measured by how often you see each other.

Friendship  doesn’t count how long you been together.

How much you give and what you get doesn’t  matter a bit…

For true friend only aims for you to be great.

In life I have experienced that friends do come and go…

But even that thing happened, it doesn’t hurt me so.

For In my heart I know, that our friendship will always be there…

And the friendship we built together will always be forever!

I thank God for the wonderful gift of love…

I thank God for the all the things he gave.

I appreciate everything that resides in this world…

Especially the Gift of Friendship that every one enjoy!

I remember the day when you came into my life

You put a smile in my face and made my day bright!

Not having a baby boy then, doesn’t affect me a bit

For what matters most is your healthy and you are my baby.

The first word you uttered  is a good music to my ear..

The first walk you made is a memorable event my dear.

The first laugh you gave is wonderful time indeed…

But whenever you cry, makes my heart bleed.

Your first day in school is worth remembering…

Cause you hid under the chair and keep on crying.

Little hug and kisses, made you feel at ease

And your class went on smoothly and everybody is at peace.

Many years had passed and my first baby  is now a lady.

Brave  enough to face the world and to handle a responsibility.

She is now capable to handle challenges and her college difficulty,

For she knows what she want and for me it’s a sign of maturity.

It’ almost eighteen year when my first baby came…

Times may have passed but the feelings remain the same.

I’m always excited on the future of my first princess

And religiously pray for her unending success.

My First Princess, always remember this…

The time we are together, I will always  cherish!

I thank God for giving a wonderful gift…

And that’s you my child and the love that will not perish!

I want to go to a place that is relaxing. I want to escape the things that stresses me. I want to rest for a while. To be in a place that is like a paradise is my dream.

Yes, I want to have a vacation. I want to disappear for quite sometime.I want to have peace to escape all the problems that bothers me.To find a quite place, enjoy and have fun.

I’m planning to go to a beach.Any beach that are hit in the metro. Maybe three days or one week stay will be fun.

Drinking  fresh fruit shakes in a sunny day beside the seashore is the first thing I will do when I got there. Feel the fresh air of the sea will soothe me.Spend time in a cozy hotel and being serve by the hospitality of the maids makes the vacation worthwhile. Involving in an activity like scuba diving,jetskiing, banana boating,and surfing makes it more adventurous. Of course, vacation is not complete without shopping! You have to buy things for your love ones and also things as souvenirs.

I am dreaming now. I have to make this plan to come true. I need to book myself first in a hotel of my chosen beach to stay. Just go there and splurge myself for relaxation. 

When we are young, we didn’t know if our feelings is love or infatuation.We just know how good it feels. On how happy we are to experience the very moment of seeing the person we like. Our hands are sweating, voice are trembling and we feel nervous when we talked to our dearly one. It’s a good feeling that we get addictive every each day.Just seeing them can complete our stressful day.

Love letters, cards, flowers and chocolates were the symbol of such wonderful feeling. We give one of these to someone who is special for us.If we receive one, we feel great and happy. Of course, a lot of excitement and zest if we get something from our special someone.It’s like a dream come true. The two of you were compatible and meant for each other. You feel that you two will get married and have kids in the future.It’s like having a perfect family.

But now, just enjoy this moment of being in love at young age.Feel the greatness and fullfilment of young adulthood.To make this time of having a first love unforgettable.

Some married couples are fortunate enough to stay together their whole lives. But still, there are some who have been married for many years and then still separate in the end.

It makes me wonder what could have pushed these people to get divorce. I think all those years that they have been together, they would know everything there is to know about their partners. It just makes sense that they have fully adjusted to each other’s idiosyncrasies. But I guess, people do change and it is just sad that some things could not be worked out anymore.

My parents went through the same phase a few years ago. They started to fight a lot and then there were shouting and then a cold war. My mom gave my dad a cold shoulder treatment and we were all affected. I thought they would not make up anymore. My mom was contemplating on separation and it came as a surprise to us. My brothers and I are all grown-up and we didn’t imagine that this will come at this time, not when they have been married for more than 25 years. We prepared ourselves for the worst. After all, it’s their decision and we thought whatever makes them happy and feel at peace, we will support them all the way.

But one fine day, everything fell into place. They were no longer fighting. They started talking again and finally, faced the problem. It was a joyous day for us. Their marriage was saved! We couldn’t be happier. I guess when the going gets tough, it all boils down to love. As long as it’s still within their hearts, they’ll always find their way back to each other.

Dating an only child is a great challenge. Generally, when people hear “only child” it either means mama’s boy for guys or daddy’s girl for ladies. Sometimes we tend to label each person by these lines. I thought so myself. But in my own experience, I have proven that not all only child are brats or spoiled as what others usually call them.

I am dating an only child. I consider him an exception to all only children I have met. I salute the discipline that his parents had taught him. He is not brought up to have all the wants in life. He has good values and respect for everyone. We’ve been dating for five years now and I am proud to say that we rarely have fights. I’d say it comes with balancing the mood at the moment an argument would arise. Despite my nagging attitude at times, he would manage to transform my mood into a more positive outlook. I truly love the humility in him.

He is a rare find. Despite imperfections in this world, with the right balance in a relationship either with an only child or not, the upbringing of a person is all accounted for through parents.

Many of us were excited to be with our partner in the same house. Why? Because we want to be with them all the time. To see what’s the ideal family looks like. Some of us think about having a live in partner or the thought of having a wedding.Sometimes our excitement pushes us to do things that are unusual for us. We were succeeded by our feelings that we forgot to use our head to think.We didn’t know what’s it looks like being in a battle without a gun.

Adjustment is the key.You are two being with unique qualities.There are things that you have similar qualities but don’t be surprised with different ones.I suggest that you have to talk to each other about that and agreed in the end that you both will have an adjustment in both differences. There’s also a fighting involved.We cannot avoid that.The couple should have an open communication to talk about the problems that happens in the relationship.I think there’s also a maturity involved for you to understand each other.

Love makes us stronger.If we stick with that, all hardships and difficulties in our relationship will overcome by us.We also have to be loyal and trust each other.A relationship without trust is nothing.

In yesterday’s post I said be careful because you may easily miss your sons or daughter’s “firsts” in life. I learnt that same lesson by being with my son today when he showed signs of almost rolling over on his belly. It’s a good thing I was there because sure enough he rolled over and not once but at least 4 times and now he is falling asleep half-way on his stomach (that was a real surprise last night!). Things go by way too fast though. He has already rolled over and has been learning his consonants and vowels and next thing I know he will be talking and crawling. We don’t live in the moment long enough so we miss so much. It’s no wonder things go so fast.

I am one of the unique babies born on the menopausal stage of my mother. As she had narrated, I was born when she was 44 years old. I am 7 years younger than my sister. The gap is tremendously huge, right? hehe.Most people think that menopausal babies are special. Although the word “special” may mean two different things. First, special as someone with low capabilites. Second, special as someone with exceeding talents.

Personally, I think the definition is unnecessary. There may be truth in it but the idea of putting label on it makes it different.

Generally, I’d like to stand as proof that menopausal babies are just like the rest. Each person is special in different ways. Thus, nobody should feel alienated because of this.

Let us all enjoy life and be grateful for what we are.

Eight years after my dad died, another pillar of my life was taken away from me. The best friend, teacher, and mother had passed away a year ago.

Apart from the closeness I had with my dad, the bond I had with my mother was incomparable. No words can measure how much close we were. She was my greatest teacher. She taught me a lot of things and the greatest was learning to love others unconditionally.

My dad taught me how to be self-reliant and responsible while my mom taught me how to do chores to live by. Being the youngest, more often than not, I used to bum around. But while growing up, both of my parents had been patient in teaching me how to live independently. They prepared me and undergone a sort of training before I was sent to college. Part of my training was to learn how to cook. They said that it is important for me to learn cooking for my own good. There had been a lot of cases where I burnt the food I was cooking. It was tough, but I didn’t give up. Eventually, I mastered the art of cooking. Now, I am proud to say that what they taught me, it may not be a material thing but I live by it in everyday of my life.

I am now one-year old orphan. It is sad to live all by myself. But my parents’ inheritance is more than a million worth of lessons that I’d learned.

I proclaim myself a certified daddy’s girl. I grew up from a large family and being the youngest is quite tough. My siblings would let me do their errands and at times, bullies me around.

My father was always there to protect me. I remember back then how strict he was. Stories from my sisters who had suitors coming for a visit at home said that my dad would have to join them. He would sit with them while they converse. And at the dining table, he made sure everyone is focused on eating. We call it table manners. There should be no one making any unwanted noise such as biting the food loudly, or even dipping or using the serving spoon. He made sure that he has his own set of spoon and fork, plate, etc. Also, he has a long stick that can reach the other end of the long table. That stick was his disciplinary tool for all of us who defy his table manners.

In the family, nobody can stand a conversation with my dad but me. We can talk anything and everything under the sun except about boys. He was a good listener. I admired his outlook in life. He was my guide and advisor. He taught me to aim for success in everything I do.

My siblings envy the bond I had with my father. Sadly, he died 8 years ago. I lost one of the pillars I had in my life. It was tough for me being the closest daughter to him. I was a few months to graduating from college when he passed away. It was the most difficult time for me as he had always been my partner on stage to receive my merit since I started going to school. Now, I live a life with his teachings. He taught me well and I’ll forever cherish it.

My parents are already in their 50’s but they do not entertain the idea of retiring yet. My mother runs a small eatery while my father does sales work. When he is not busy meeting with a prospective client, he can be found helping my mother in the business. When I don’t have work to do, I also make it a point to visit them so that I can help out during busy hours.

I have asked them at what age do they plan to take it slow with work and they were one in saying that they would relax after my youngest brother finishes his college education. I would definitely want them to rest easy because I know that they have been working real hard ever since we were young.

It’s a good thing that they will both have pension when they reach 60 years old at least they would have enough money for their needs. Of course, my brothers and I will help them no matter what happens but I’m sure they would want money of their own.

For now, my parents are enjoying their lives and are happy that they already have two grandchildren to complete it. We have a complete family and are just thankful that we are always there for each other.