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Learn MoreDating an only child is a great challenge. Generally, when people hear “only child” it either means mama’s boy for guys or daddy’s girl for ladies. Sometimes we tend to label each person by these lines. I thought so myself. But in my own experience, I have proven that not all only child are brats or spoiled as what others usually call them.
I am dating an only child. I consider him an exception to all only children I have met. I salute the discipline that his parents had taught him. He is not brought up to have all the wants in life. He has good values and respect for everyone. We’ve been dating for five years now and I am proud to say that we rarely have fights. I’d say it comes with balancing the mood at the moment an argument would arise. Despite my nagging attitude at times, he would manage to transform my mood into a more positive outlook. I truly love the humility in him.
He is a rare find. Despite imperfections in this world, with the right balance in a relationship either with an only child or not, the upbringing of a person is all accounted for through parents.
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I have been down the only child route twice and found both experience to be pretty bad. Not so much that they were spoiled, but that they just seem to by in their own little world. It’s sort of like they are unresponsive to the normal things that those of us with siblings are sensitive to. In short, I would not recommend it, unless, of course, you are also an only child. Maybe that would put you on the same wavelength. I certainly could not tune into that wavelength!
ReplyI’m an only child (female) and I feel like I don’t have any bagage! I’ve alway’s dated guys who have lots of sibblings and it a lot to keep up with! Esspecially the older I get. Now the siblings are getting married having kids…etc. My boyfriend doesn’t need to do a single thing with my family…hardly ever! My parents like the freedom of bouncing around traveling and being free so my boyfriend only has to tolerate the occasional visit that only last a couple hours every couple months! This arangement gives me lots of time to cater to him and his families needs! I’m tired of getting a bad wrap for being an only child! Even my boyfriend jokes about it because he knows it bothers me! He is an identical twin, if anything he’s the one who’s used to getting attention all the time! My parents didn’t spoil me. I do have a very close relationship with them though. Not all only child can be put in the same catagory! I have met some very nice selfless only children. If anything I think the problem with only children isn’t needing attention, it’s learning how to deal with the attention they do receive in social settings. They don’t know what to do with it and feel uncomfortable with it! (I’ve met some odd ones!
ReplyI am an only child and I am looking to date same. I have been married twice to women with siblings and it has always caused problems. I am a independent person who does not need sibling to prop me up or bring me down. I am tired of siblings who want you to take on their problems. I married HER, not her siblings!
ReplyI would never date an only child. Nobody should, its an unhealthy situation.
ReplyI have been dating an only child for almost 6 months. She is very sweet and things are getting pretty serious. Today was the first day we ever talked about marriage and I have some concerns. First of all, I really do love her and want things to work out but there are alot of small things that bug me. She has been adored and taken care of her whole life by her mom (no dad). When we talk it alway ends up about her talking about herself. We started to talk about that once but she just cried and nothing really changed. Is it possible for only childern to learn and care about others more then themselves. I really want a good healthy relationship and become “one” but that is hard when it is all about her and she does not even understand that. Any advice would be greatly apriciated.
Reply3 years into a recent relationship with someone who was self-centered to a disturbing extreme and often seemed a bit out of touch with reality, it dawned on me that she was an only child, and that might explain her character. She could be sweet and nice at times, but if you put any demand on her at all, it was met with a tantrum. She was completely lacking any sense of responsibility for anything she did, was constantly a victim and went through life assuming the world and everyone in it existed to take care of her and grant her all her wishes. It was a horror show. Once I realized that this was just who she was, the fighting finally stopped, the misunderstandings and anger finally ended- I accepted her for who she was and moved on. Nope, I’ll never date another only child again.
ReplyJust broke up with one because he couldn’t say no to his mom, even when she made completely unreasonable requests on both of us. My brother and I both had and ended painful relationships with only children(my bf was one, his gf wasn’t techinically one but as her next closest was 14 years older she effectively was one). I don’t think it’s the being an only child per se that’s the problem, I think it’s the lack of social interaction with peers. An only child who has had several close friends or cousins, enough to learn about give and take, would probably do fine. My cousin, for example, who effectively was an only child, is doing fine because he grew up with lots of exposure to peers. An only child who had overprotective parents and was also socially isolated, on the other hand, is a major problem. My ex bf’s mom basically dedicated her life to micromanaging him. This caused problems with me, with his employers, and with his roommates because he never learned how to politely communicate his complaints(would either say nothing or blow up) or look at things from someone else’s viewpoint. He seemed to want me to take care of him, entertain him 24/7 at the expense of my own needs, and read his mind. More than anything, the passive-aggressive stuff drove me nuts. It actually reminded me very much of how I thought when I was in junior high. Thing is, we’re in our twenties. Hence why he is my ex-bf and not my bf.
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ReplyI’ve never been in this spot before. I am dating a 35 year old only child. He is very kind and sweet and thoughtful at times. Lately though when i can’t stay over or meet when he wants he gets grumpy. Last night i needed to go home b/c i was having cramps and he got upset and picked on my schedule. I help my dads a few night a week. He is a Paraplegic. Most the time my boyfriend understands and usually he’s at work or i meet him when he gets off. He has a nutty schedule works days then switches to nights. I took off time from work to take him to his hip surgery. And was there checking on him afterwards. He got spoiled b/c i would stay the night at his place. So he got used to me being there more and doesn’t like to be alone. We have been dating for 3 months. Things have gone pretty fast and we both so excited to find someone after being alone for awhile. i’m trying to figure out how to handle his comments about me not finding time for him. Any ideas on how to talk to him about his pouty attitude?
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